Ego likes fast; Soul loves slow

PreviewI know I’m in my ego too much when I’m rushing through my day, my yoga practice, my conversations and interactions with others, and my to do list thinking that I have to get more stuff done and that going fast is the answer.  Wrong…  Going fast doesn’t work for me anymore and it doesn’t give me the quality and depth that my soul longs for.

The Soul loves it when we slow down because then we feel what’s in our heart, we are present, centered and mindful of our experiences.

Slowing down soothes the nervous system and cultivates calm. In our overly anxious world we need this now more than ever.  The solution to anxiety is to embrace embodiment and we can only be embodied when we slow down and are in the present with our breath.

Try this simple breathing exercise to slow down your thoughts and get centered.
1. Inhale for a count of four.
2. Hold for a count of four.
3. Exhale for a count of four.
4. Wait for a count of four.
5. Repeat until you feel calm and centered again.

When your lungs expand slowly this releases acetylcholine, a neurotransmitter which tells your heart to slow down.  A slowed heart rate calms your entire nervous system and when your nervous system is calm you can much more easily register the subtle energies of your body that when felt promote well-being and health.

Other simple ways to slow down and connect with soul:

  • Get out in nature and leave your phone at home – Go for a walk in the woods, watch a sunset or be near the water.  Pause, appreciate and take in the beauty and serenity of the moment.
  • Move slowly – Walk don’t run to your meeting, restroom, or bus stop.  Turn your daily walk into a moving meditation where you are conscious of each step and your surroundings.  Along with walking pick activities like slow flow yoga and Tai Chi that require you being present to each breath and movement.
  • Do one thing at a time – When you do one thing at a time with your awareness in the present moment the enjoyment and quality is much better. Soul is all about quality, not quantity.

Life is not a race.  Take notice the next time you want to go fast and then stop and intentionally choose to slow down.

Slow is the way to go, be and live.




Ego Wants to Impress; Soul Needs to Express

One good way to know if you are coming from your ego or your soul is to ask yourself, “Am I trying to impress, or do I need to express?” The ego wants to impress; the Soul needs to express. There is a big distinction between ego wanting/desiring and soul needing. The soul doesn’t want for anything; it’s only purpose is the need to be of service.

The ego wants attention and looks for opportunities to impress others so that it gets the validation it wants. The ego wants to feel important and admired and has little concern for what’s best for others.

The soul however has a great need to serve by expressing some quality that it has and that by doing so will benefit others in some way.  For example If you know that you are love then as a Soul you feel compelled to express that love, not for anything in return, but simply for the sake of expressing the essence that you are. If you are feeling compassion for someone or something and you express that compassion this is the soul’s way of relating and making itself known in the world.  Soul expression is unconditional and flows freely from the personality that is not identified with ego.

Don’t live your life to impress others. That path will never lead to lasting Joy. Live your life to express your Soul – your genuine Love, Beauty, Truth, Goodness, Joy and Uniqueness. If you end up impressing someone because of your genuine expression then great but don’t let that be your motive for what you do.  Keep your motives pure and forget about impressing, just focus on expressing your authentic self.



Intuition is My Best Friend

I am most grateful for that still, small voice within that guides me daily and connects me to my highest truth. It’s so important now more than ever to silence the noise and be disciplined to get quiet and listen within.  Start to pay attention to the subtle thoughts and feelings that arise which can easily go unnoticed if you’re not present and aware.  Those subtle thoughts and feelings are your soul prompting you to stop and be aware. You must be present or those insights and guidance won’t come.

That guidance, the voice within, is your friend, probably the best friend you will ever have and always has your highest and best interest at hand.  So start making friends with your intuition right now.  Developing a loving relationship with your intuition is one of the most important things you can do on your soul journey.

I don’t always know, but my intuition (the voice of my soul) does.  The soul is wise and if you open to that wisdom it will guide you and your decisions.  My intuition has never misguided or betrayed me. It is always there for me.  All I have to do is get quite, be still and tune into it.  As you learn to make intuition your best friend you discover you don’t have to rely on finding answers outside of yourself.  This is so freeing and life transforming.

Everything you need to know is inside of you, in your heart, yet we too often try to find answers with our intellect.  Intuition trumps intellect every time and I’m following that guidance more and more in my life.  The Soul within us knows the truth, while our brain only knows what we have been conditioned with.

It’s a very empowering thing to connect to the wisdom of the heart and rely on your own inner knowing.  You just have to believe that, trust that and know that. Believe in You and trust your heart and soul to know what your brain doesn’t know.

Take time today to listen within and make Intuition your best friend.

Much Love,

Stay in the Energy of Love

If you want peace in your life you must stay in the energy of Love. It’s whenever we step out of this energy with our judgments and fears that we experience problems, illnesses, challenges and all sorts of life disruptions that eventually and hopefully lead us back to Love.  The solution is always Love.  Get back to your essence of love.  Align with love and stay in the Energy of Love.

How do we do this?
Choose forgiveness, over and over again.
Choose Love, Compassion, Mercy and Allow Grace.

Just like I tell my yoga students, “breathe and feel; respond not react; stay in Love; stay in the Heart; stay in Soul; stay ensouled.”  It’s so easy to lose this connection especially if we are living unconsciously and not aware of our ability to choose how we want to feel and what we want to experience.  Well-being is always there and is a result of you choosing to stay in the energy of Love.

Love is always the answer; love always, in all ways.  When fear comes up learn to respond with Love.  This takes a level of spiritual maturity and lots of practice I know, but keep choosing loving forgiveness.  Fill your consciousness with Love and watch your life blossom with Joy.

Much Love,


Ego Gives to Get; Soul Gives to Serve

Life is about Living.
Life is about Giving.
How do you want to Live?
What do you have to Give?

Giving to others feels so good especially when it’s done unconditionally and sometimes anonymously. More and more I’m realizing that when you give to others you are truly giving to yourself as you recognize we are one.

When we give from our soul self we don’t “give to get” but we give to express our essence of goodness that wants to serve in some way. Everyday count your blessings and express gratitude for all that you are capable of giving.


Become More Whole

Body, mind, spirit, soul, map for balanced life

Whenever you do something, do it from your Whole being.
Don’t deny any aspects of yourself: Mind, Body, Emotional, Spiritual, Soul.
Feel it with your heart.
Experience it with your body.
Focus on it with your mind.
Attune to it with your Soul.
And let your Spirit be fully present and Alive.

In this way you become more Whole.
In this way you become more Powerful, Loving and Light.
In this way you create Harmony and Well-being.

It is my intention to practice this in my yoga sessions and in my walk in life. The new spirituality calls for us all to become more whole.  As we do so, we heal our lives and change the world.



If You Want Depth You Have to Slow Down

If you want Depth you have to Slow Down and get Real with yourself. Ego likes quick and easy, going from one thing to the next: the latest, the greatest, the newest, the best. But that doesn’t get you anywhere meaningful.

If you want Depth, you have to Dive. Meaning is found in going deeper. When you stay with one thing long enough you have the opportunity to go deeper and learn a lot more about yourself in the process.

Going fast is mostly how I lived my life for the longest time thinking that I was getting more things done but really only fooling myself. Distraction, rushing and busy living keeps us on the surface unable to touch our depth. But eventually this wears us down and we come to see we are running from ourselves, from our truth, from our power, from our divinity, from our depth.

Maybe this is why I love practicing and teaching slow flow yoga. I learn so much more from going slow; stopping to feel; being open to heal; slowing down to enjoy each moment, each breath.  The wisdom of the real comes slow and so we have to be patient with ourselves and our journey. But’s it worth it and you are worth it, so slow down and savor your life.

Going fast doesn’t work for me anymore and that’s a good thing; it’s a sign that I’ve grown.  Maybe you are finding this to be true in your life as well. Living a life of depth is so much more joyful and fulfilling than staying shallow where only fleeting happiness is possible.


Compassion is Soul Love

Pink Heart

Feeling compassion for a friend who is experiencing a lot of health challenges and it had me reflecting on how powerful expressing the quality of compassion can be.

Compassion is Soul Love; it is a quality of Soul expressing through your heart.

When expressing compassion it takes you out of your ego as you express your genuine concern and love for others. Compassion is a soulful practice and unites us in love; unconditional, soul love.  Put your compassion in action today by seeking to understand, accept, love and empower others.  Every compassionate act is an example of a soul shining its Light and expressing Love.


All is Well in my Soul


hands of woman meditating on yoga pose on the beach

All is Well in My Soul

No matter what you are experiencing know that all is well in your Soul.  The Soul is undisturbed and always at Peace.  We can access that calm, nurturing space when we go within, connect with our breath and find a place of stillness.  The Soul is in the stillness and it is my intention this week to take mini-breaks throughout the day to get quiet, be still, breathe consciously and sense the well-being of my soul.

All is Well in My Soul, this I Know…


Why Wait?

IMG_4696Playing with Crow Pose Yoga on this foot stool while my coffee is brewing…

I’ve given up the concept of “waiting around” and instead always try to do something more fun, meaningful and or productive during those 30 to however many seconds or minutes spent waiting every day.  No matter if it’s waiting for your coffee to brew, at a redlight, in a grocery line, at the airport, etc… There are so many other things we can do instead of just wait and I want to

DO SOMETHING OTHER THAN LOOK AT MY PHONE, because I already do that enough.

Here are somethings you can do instead:

  • Read a book – This is especially good if you have a long wait like Jury Duty.  Reading can help you relax and it’s great to use your imagination.  I’ve been making it a habit to keep a book in my bag wherever I go.
  • Stretch – I can never get enough stretching in.  It feels so good to move the body in this way and release tension from your muscles.
  • Dance – Move your body and forget about if anyone is watching. You may inspire them to move also.
  • Sing – Express yourself and sing out loud.  Singing always makes me feel uplifted.
  • Pray/Meditate – take a moment to be still, go within and connect.  Offer a prayer or reflect on a word/mantra/bible verse that has significant meaning to you.
  • Think about and visualize your goals – use this time to check in with yourself on where you’re at with completing any goals you may have set.  Visualize your goals being met.
  • Talk to someone – Maybe even start up a conversation with a stranger.  Don’t be afraid to make a new friend (the ole fashion way).
  • Look for beauty around you – There is always something beautiful to appreciate. Look around you see something with new eyes.  Beauty is everywhere if we just look.
  • Think about what you’re grateful for – One of my favorite things to do is to make a gratitude list.  This will boost your mood and bring more good things into your life.
  • Write something, maybe even a poem – you don’t have to be a poet, just write something beautiful and or meaningful to you.  Write from the heart.
  • Make eye-contact with someone and give them a smile – We don’t look at each other anymore.  Our faces are usually buried in our phones.  Why not, look someone in the eye and give a friendly smile.  You never know who you might connect with and how this would change both of your days.
  • Breathe – Bring awareness to your breathing and you will cultivate being more calm and peaceful in every moment.

You never have to wait again; instead fill those moments with meaningful activity.  You’ll feel more connected and your Soul will appreciate it.