Go For What Will Help You Grow

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In 2016 I committed to be more Daring.  I dared myself to do many things I never though I could.  Early last year I saw someone do a handstand split on the beach and thought that would be so awesome to be able to do.  I’ve never taken gymnastics and didn’t start a consistent yoga practice till in my late 30’s but through  my yoga practice I’ve grown stronger and more fearless and so I dared myself to practice handstands over and over again.  I fell many times and it’s still a challenge to balance but everyday I grow a little stronger and some days I find that balance and strength. 

In 2017 I will continue to be more Daring (not just in yoga poses) and really go for the things that scare me the most because that’s where I find I grow the most. Where in your life can you be more daring? 

Go for what will help you Grow…


Move with Meaning

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I want my actions to be more powerful, purposeful and creative. I want to conserve energy and get the best results with less effort. I aspire to make every moment count and I realize to do this I need to move with meaning. I need to know what I want to achieve from my every movement/action. In other words, I need to bring consciousness to what I am doing and be deliberate with my movement.

Do you move with meaning?

Do your actions contribute to your own growth, the betterment of others, environment, etc. or are they self-serving focusing on fulfilling superficial desires only? If the latter you won’t find meaning, just emptiness.

From the simplest thing as to your posture, how you stand and walk; you can bring consciousness there and ask yourself, “How can I stand with more meaning?” This sounds a little strange but when you think about it deeper it makes sense. When you bring consciousness to your posture and movement, you bring your full awareness and attention there and you can then correct any improper alignment which if ignored could lead to poor spinal health.

I tell my yoga students often to roll their shoulders up, back and down and stand with a tall spine and lifted chest and then to notice how this makes you feel. When they stand and move in this way, they tell me they feel more confident and powerful. Standing in this way is meaningful to them as it is an action that brings more quality and purpose to their lives.

You can move with more meaning in all areas of your life. In your communications with others you can listen with more meaning by giving them your complete attention. In your diet try eating with more meaning to receive better nutrition and create greater health. You can do almost anything and make it meaningful. It takes being aware and choosing to live intentionally.


1. SLOW DOWN and BE CONSCIOUS of who you are and what’s important to you in the moment. What do you need/want?

2. Be clear about your motivations for acting and keep them pure and purposeful.  What do you want to create?

3. Act from a place of depth, compassion and truth. This will take the focus off wanting to obtain any superficial desire and instead focus on acting to fulfill need in yourself or in others.

If you are like me and are on a path of growth and authenticity then you know how important it is to feel a sense of meaning in your life. I now seek meaning in just about everything. I don’t want to just go through the motions and live unconsciously without purpose. Meaning and purpose go together. Where there is more meaning, there is more purpose and vice versa. Life is much more rewarding and fulfilling when all is meaningful.



What Makes Me Unique? Five Areas to Explore

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Understanding what makes you unique is an incredibly valuable thing to know especially if you want to express yourself authentically and make a difference for others. To understand more about what makes you so unique, I invite you to take an adventurous journey to know yourself. There are many places on your journey where you will want to stop, pay attention and explore. These places are your self-awareness destinations and will help you to know more about who you are and where you are going. As you continue along this journey, you will begin to experience an increased sense of meaning and purpose in your life along with a greater appreciation of yourself for the incredibly unique person that you are.

Here are five areas to explore on your self-awareness journey to uncovering your uniqueness.

1. Gifts and Talents – We all have unique gifts and talents. A lot of these we were born with and others we developed. To know your gifts and special talents you need to look at what you do well. Ask yourself, “What is it that I can do easily that others find difficult?” Your gifts and talents will come so natural to you and sometimes this is why we don’t recognize them. Pay attention to what others tell you that you do well. Notice what they complement you on and you will soon start to recognize and claim your gifts and talents.

2. Values – Our values are the things in our life that are most important to us. Values represent what we stand for and what matters to us; they are the principles by which you live your life. To determine your values look at where you spend most of your time and what you spend your money on. What do these things represent to you? Our values present themselves when we are faced with tough decisions. Think about a decision you recently made when you had to choose between one thing or the other. Why did you make that decision? What value did that decision represent?

3. Passions – You know your passions when you know what you LOVE. What brings you joy just thinking about it? What do you love to spend your time doing? Look at your book and blog collection and see what most the books/blogs you love to read are about. Also feel into what makes you come most alive? Your passions invigorate you with feelings of excitement and joy.

4. Life Experiences – You have unique life experiences that contribute to you being the incredible individual that you are. Look back at your life from where you grew up to the people you have met and the places you have gone and all that you have experienced, and see that all those events have been part of your unique life path.

5. Special Knowledge – There are some things that you have a greater insight to than others. What have you studied for a long time? What about any training? This knowledge is part of unique gift you bring to the world.

The journey to discover your uniqueness will open you to a new awareness of yourself. When you have a clear picture of what makes you unique you can better understand how you can better contribute to others around you. You begin to understand your unique place in the world and your purpose is revealed.



Sit in My Soul

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One of my favorite, most delightful things that I love to do is to just “sit in my soul.” I need this time daily for my life to flourish and feel meaningful. When I sit in my soul, I get very quiet and connect within. Here I find my truth, my power and a feeling of deep contentment. There is nothing I need in this moment. I am at complete peace and all is well.

My greatest insights come from this quiet time spent with my soul.  All of a sudden it’s very clear what action I need to take if any.  I realize where I need to slow down and what is really important to me.

I can definitely tell if I skip a day or two of this because I feel scattered like I’m going, going, going with no clear direction. This is when I need to STOP and PAY ATTENTION , sense deeply and sensitively what’s going on inside of me and allow the qualities of soul to fill me. In this way I am balancing my life and energy so that there is not so much ego build up with all its doing, thinking, striving and I am bringing a sense of being and consciousness to the present moment.


• Set aside 5-20 minutes of solitude time or 5 minute mini-breaks throughout the day.

• Clear distractions

• Connect with your breath

• Be Still and Listen within

All you need to know is inside of you and when you take the time to sit in your soul you can tap into the abundance of resources at your hand. I’m learning to trust this process more and more and to lean less on the advice from others, from books, etc. I’m realizing the greatest wisdom comes from within my own soul. I only know what’s best for me and you only know what’s best for you. In trusting yourself and following that wisdom you become more authentic leading the life that is meant for you to live.


Respond More, React Less

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“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” – Victor Frankl

I am on a mission to respond more and react less. Why? Because I have realized this is a big key to my sanity and to wellness in general. Every time we react we create a lot of unnecessary stress when to avoid all that we could just pause, take a breath and choose to respond. This “pause” between circumstance and your behavior is what contributes to gaining a sense of control and well-being in your life. This is not only the key to wellness but the key to personal growth as you realize you have a choice and that you can create your reality based on the choice you make.

When you react you are coming from your personality, your past conditioning and your habits. Reactions are unconscious and we usually don’t even know we are reacting until things have settled down and we’ve had a chance to reflect. A reaction is usually accompanied by a whirlwind of emotions because when we react, we do so very quickly and without thinking. These emotions can trigger stress in our body and mind which overtime can lead to distress, dis-ease and illness the more and more we react.

When you respond you come more from your soul, your authentic self which is the wiser more compassionate part of you. I really want to emphasize this here because this is why I created my blog; to help people express more from their authentic self (soul) and less from their conditioned self (personality). A response is always more authentic than a reaction.

When you respond you are taking RESPONSIBILITY for your words and actions because you are consciously making a choice instead of going into default reactive mode.

It takes a lot of practice and a level of maturity to respond more and react less. We are learning to control our emotions instead of letting our emotions control us. This is a very challenging practice but one that will payoff tremendously leading to a greater sense of well-being and confidence that you can handle whatever comes your way.

Here are some steps you can take to get you started.


1. STOP and PAY ATTENTION. Notice when you are in a challenging situation, when something or someone has triggered you.

2. BREATHE. Take a few deep breaths to stay calm and watch your reaction go away.

3. CHOOSE. Determine what your options are and make a conscious decision? Decide on the best course of action then ACT.

4. REFLECT. What did you learn from the situation?

My daily yoga practice has helped me learn this process. There are many challenging yoga poses that are held for long times and when I learned to breathe through the challenge and to remain calm I could then choose to find some ease in the pose instead of struggling to do the pose perfectly. After all yoga is not about the how you do the pose or how you look in the pose. It is about being present and when you are present you can respond.

Too many of us spend the majority of our time in reactive mode. We can’t help but react; it’s going to happen, but can you respond more and react less in life’s challenging situations?
You have a choice and there is power in that choice.

Whenever you consider the best way to respond you can improve your life. Relationships will be better, your health will improve and you find your life flowing much more harmoniously. Be patient with yourself as you learn this new way of acting in your life.

Practice this today: while in traffic, in conversations with your family, at work, at the gym or while in line at the grocery store. Try it and let me know how it goes.