One good way to know if you are coming from your ego or your soul is to ask yourself, “Am I trying to impress, or do I need to express?” The ego wants to impress; the Soul needs to express. There is a big distinction between ego wanting/desiring and soul needing. The soul doesn’t want for anything; it’s only purpose is the need to be of service.
The ego wants attention and looks for opportunities to impress others so that it gets the validation it wants. The ego wants to feel important and admired and has little concern for what’s best for others.
The soul however has a great need to serve by expressing some quality that it has and that by doing so will benefit others in some way. For example If you know that you are love then as a Soul you feel compelled to express that love, not for anything in return, but simply for the sake of expressing the essence that you are. If you are feeling compassion for someone or something and you express that compassion this is the soul’s way of relating and making itself known in the world. Soul expression is unconditional and flows freely from the personality that is not identified with ego.
Don’t live your life to impress others. That path will never lead to lasting Joy. Live your life to express your Soul – your genuine Love, Beauty, Truth, Goodness, Joy and Uniqueness. If you end up impressing someone because of your genuine expression then great but don’t let that be your motive for what you do. Keep your motives pure and forget about impressing, just focus on expressing your authentic self.